Believe me… No one likes going through life all alone!
Even if they enjoy isolating (“Talking to the Men out there…”)
Like the Beatles say, We get by with a little help from our friends.” Believe this… no one gets to where they want without intervention and support from a caring TEAM OF PEOPLE.
That’s what you have here and there’s a skill and a bravery element needed to accept it in.
Today’s all about setting up a very specific and specialized support team. Likely, very new to you with the way we’re going to do it. But, it’ll be eye opening and fun. Be aware of roadblocks, inner resistance and a nagging reluctance to really reach out, be seen and be vulnerable. Most importantly, notice if you’re naturally coachable or supportable. I wasn’t in the first half of my life. I battled people that wanted to help me and I pushed out everyone. Naturally, I found myself all alone, sad, angry and lost. (Dum, Dum, Dum)… until I learned how to ask for help, to help others and to let others love and support me.
Quick Notes: Focus on the things you’ll need support with and who is the best person for that.
You can create your support team to ensure your success because you won’t be doing this alone. That’s the #1 thing we’re up against. Isolation and discouragement. Luckily, it’s what every other person is going through so you’re not alone in this particular challenge. Every race, gender and age range struggles with asking for help and getting support.
We’ll be outlining a few areas of our life that need support and we’ll be picking specific people, groups or resources to serve those areas best.
What Can A True Support Team Really Do For Me?
Easily put? A real team of support makes it so we never have to “do it alone” again. Life isn’t meant to be done all on our own. Get a team, share and collaborate!
Ok, this part should be fun and bring you some relief if you’ve been stressing about HOW YOU’RE GOING TO ACHIEVE THIS MONSTROUS 30 DAY GOAL. Let’s get started with the exercise below.
What’s Your Support Team Look Like?
In this section, you can include needs from your personal life and your business. For example, a psychologist could help both, however a life coach and a health coach would each deserve their own position at your table.
Be specific when writing the potential area for support on the left and the current or desired support team member on the right. These positions can also be paid services from companies, partners you add to your company, mentors and even volunteers or friends offering you free or bartered support.
An example of what mine may look like is: (Remember my goal and action steps from Day 6 & Day 7 – hopefully you read them and worked the Action Guides. If not, go back and do them!)
Area for support: Team Member:
___Organization_________________ ___Martin (My Biz Partner)______
Got it? Cool. These represent just a small fraction of what my real team looks like. In fact, I’ve got someone for everything in my life. Someone’s looking over my back and they have the designation of being “My Teammate & Mentor.” Build these and cast everyone for a specific role. I don’t go to a general friend or acquaintance and start talking about my business or with my insecurities in an area to which they have no frame of reference. Right? They’ll look at me with confusion, even if they love me. Their questions, support and advice will be “off.”
I don’t go to my Girlfriend and talk about work related struggles. Not her department. With her, we focus on love, healing, enjoying the fruits of our labor, having fun and doing other things. Cool?
Cool! So, let’s start casting your team below. If you don’t have someone for a specific area? Look to our FB group and get to know someone?
Think about it, they’re already in this FB group to support and be supported, so it’s a great place to start.
Lastly, if someone doesn’t work out, its ok because they’re segmented for a specific thing and your “Whole house” or “operation” won’t come tumbling down. Also remember that a complete 20+ person support list takes time to properly cast and build.
So, start with just a few that DIRECTLY RELATE to your success with this 30 day goal!
Who will be on your support team? Put me in there somewhere 🙂
Pick the best you can imagine because you’re worth it and you can make it happen! For some of them, you’ll have to call and ask… others, they’re already in place and aware of what’s important to you. Even more important, they’re aware of your shortcomings and you trust them to show up for you.
Action item: Do your best to fill in all 12 roles of area of you life to have support in and list the person or group to help you with that. Be specific!
Ok, you’re on it! Way to go…
So, looking at your list of support areas and corresponding support team, do you feel good about them? Do you need to make some phone calls and talk to some of them before you put this list in stone?
Well, once you do that, post your list in the FB group if you’re up to it and can trust us with your personal list. Start direct messaging people in the FB group to build relationships. Hopefully, you can find someone special who will become your team goal buddy. A prized position. Look to be someone else’s’ team goal buddy. It’s REALLY REWARDING!
Technically, it’s half the fun… to be part of someone else’s win and success. (That’s why I wake up every morning.) It’s a clean and loving, non manipulative energy that fills our souls!
What To Do Now?
Celebrate this win. Do something nice for yourself. Today was really important and hopefully you can feel the potential, the opportunity and the support.
Pro Tip: ONLY FOCUS ON THE SINGLE ACTION STEP IN FRONT OF YOU TODAY. The good news? You still have two more days to plan and get ready for your first action step / milestone.